Don’t Forsake Your Connection

The past several weeks has reminded me that importance of being connected with one another. Relationship is the simplest way to make certain that we are not losing our human touch. It is also paramount in improving our social, familial, and business interactions. Most people that you want to associate with must have a foundation with your values and view of life. 

I will admit. The death of many influential people in my world have aided in my arrival to this concept. I am convinced that many people have not taken sufficient time to actively explore how we have allowed disconnections to occur and persist. The expiration of one’s journey on this side of life brings a balance and unexpected perspective to how we interact with one another while time is yet on our side. 

We must arrive at the point where we have not always done our best in maintaining important relationships in the best way possible. We must confess that we can all do better in expressing our love for family, friends, and other associates. We should not have to wait until the lid of a casket robs us of our ability to say what we feel. We should not live with regrets about rectifying a situation. We should not forsake our connection with one another. 

So, what do we do about this problem…?

1. Be intentional in our interactions—If someone is on your mind, do not delay in reaching out to him or her. Make certain that you let them know what they mean to you. Even if they think you are losing your mind, never let the day pass without making certain they know that they are in their immediate thoughts.
2. Connect with your humanity daily—Do not allow social media, other platforms, or opinions dictate how you connect with people. Your experience may be totally different than what others have projected. Furthermore, you might be in a position to partner with someone designed to elevate your purpose and destiny to another level. Do not let the outside prejudice influence your potential blessing. Get to know people where they are and see where they will be. 
3. Take ownership of your own part—If you have caused a rift or problem in a relationship, own the responsibility and fix it. Fixing it does not mean find a way to make it benefit you. Fixing it may not mean restoring it to what it once was. Fixing it means finding a way to move forward in peace; restoring one another based on respecting each party’s humanity; and growing into a new realm of maturity. 

We must endeavor to consider one another every day. We never know when we might find ourselves in need of help, love, or support. As we strive to be better people in this world, we must continue to stay connected no matter what it takes. 

 

“I want to protect you, Daddy..”: A love letter to my son…

Dear CJ,

I don’t know what your mother and I did to deserve you. Daily, we look at ourselves as the luckiest parents in the world. You may not know this right now, but Little Man, you are absolutely the best kid ever. I recognize that you are 4 years old. You have not been touched by the ridiculous nature of the foolishness that the world presents to us. I am glad that your innocence and purity continues to remain intact. As long as I live, I will do everything in my power to remind you to hold on to that part of your existence forever.

I want to thank you son for caring for me while your mother is traveling. I know that you never want me to feel alone. However today, you said something so prevalent. You said something so significant that it was only from God. You remember your idea from Monday morning? It went something like this:

Daddy, I have an idea. Let me stay in your room tonight. We can look out for each other. I will protect you. 

As much as I wanted to tell you that I didn’t need you to take that responsibility, I am so proud that demonstrated the desire to protect your family. Son, I didn’t know that I would need any protection tonight. I didn’t realize that I would need it today. Yet, God has given you the spirit of discernment that we prayed for your life.

I recognize that you are not fully aware of what protection means for my life. I understand that the concept of protection is framed through the world of PAW Patrol and many other cartoons. I will not attempt to tell you how to care for your loved ones right now. However, I will let you know that you will learn as you grow how to protect and care better and better.

My prayer for you son is simple. Never change. Never lose the sensitivity of the Spirit of God that rests on your life. Never lose the depth of love for your family and friends. Never allow life to strip you of the essence of who you are. You are Charles Jeremiah Ferguson–A man of strength and vigor exalted by Yahweh.

Walk in your purpose and destiny my son…..

I love you very much….

Daddy

Where is Samuel? A Call to the Priestly Prophet

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5 When they came to the land of Zuph, Saul said to his servant[a] who was with him, “Come, let us go back, lest my father cease to care about the donkeys and become anxious about us.” 6 But he said to him, “Behold, there is a man of God in this city, and he is a man who is held in honor; all that he says comes true. So now let us go there. Perhaps he can tell us the way we should go.” 7 Then Saul said to his servant, “But if we go, what can we bring the man? For the bread in our sacks is gone, and there is no present to bring to the man of God. What do we have?” 8 The servant answered Saul again, “Here, I have with me a quarter of a shekel[b] of silver, and I will give it to the man of God to tell us our way.” 9 (Formerly in Israel, when a man went to inquire of God, he said, “Come, let us go to the seer,” for today’s “prophet” was formerly called a seer.) 10 And Saul said to his servant, “Well said; come, let us go.” So they went to the city where the man of God was.–I Samuel 9:5-9, ESV

A few years ago, I wrote my doctoral project on returning church leadership to a Biblical understanding. I was in a church context that was challenged with a past that had pastoral and lay leadership not holding the people in care. Individuals told me that they experience moments of embarrassment when private matters were made public. Furthermore, individuals did not feel safe in address real issues in a place/institution that is supposed to be inherently a safe space.

When leadership proves to be toxic, it is a difficult proposition to assist someone through the ebb and flow of life’s journey. People have a difficult time trusting that leaders are capable of handling the real challenges that are before individuals on a daily basis. That reason was the prompt for the subject matter of my project.

Now, I find myself in the midst of people attempting to articulate their faith in the midst of trying times. When I speak of trying times, I am really addressing the demon of indifference to the human condition. The same one that has constantly found methods of separation, platform establishment, and selective piety. This moment in time has caused me to examine myself and consider my place as a pastor and leader.

For many years, I have wrestled with the thought of extremism in the Christian faith. Life, seminary, personal study, and experiences have pulled out of me the truest form of who and what I am as a person. I realize that living and attempting to follow the example of Christ is the most radical thing that a person can do. But it is not for the reasons that many might think.

Being a follower of Christ, a true observer of God requires much more than a surface idea of the Biblical text. We must be in tune with God to such an extent that we accept the thought that we might not know everything. Furthermore, we must possess the mental, emotional, and spiritual dexterity necessary to understand that people arrive at very different experiences with God. Greater still, the arguments for what people call foundational/traditional must pass the God test every time.

What I am saying is that we must be prepared to give real answers in a real world about a real God is sits higher than us. Yet, that concept is not taking place. People are lost. People are frustrated. People are functioning to be on the winning side. People are willing to do harm to others to prove that God does not want them.

We are in need more than ever of having Samuel like leaders. What do I mean? We need leaders that possess shepherd qualities with prophetic edge. We need people that are not looking only in the scope today’s benefit. We need people that can see the larger picture that reaches everyone on every level.

When Saul was lost chasing his father’s donkeys, he and his servant were in need of finding someone to help them get back on track going towards their home. When asking for a seer (another name for prophet), a person told them about Samuel. The recommendation was associated with a guarantee. Behold, there is a man of God in this city, and he is a man who is held in honor; all that he says comes true. The indication is that Samuel was not only in sync with God, but was able to navigate the challenges of the moment.

I do not care what the issues might be (human sexuality, race, gender, etc). We are in a season that requires more than people fighting for their specific corner of their world. We must finally accept that God is much bigger than our thoughts and understanding. We must accept that at best we are attempting to navigate imperfect people toward the best way to love God and others. We must accept that we can not limit God’s reach in matters of faith formation and direction.

I was not always vocal in this manner. I arrived at this place not because of the current debates regarding human sexuality and leadership in the life of the church. I came to this place when I finally saw God differently and recognized that Christ looks more like me. In other words, I was finally liberated to experience the God that loves me through the lens of my challenges, difficulties, uniqueness, and experienced bias.

I understand more than ever that it was necessary to have people in my life with the heart of a shepherd to aide me through facing my emotional health through more than laying on of hands. I needed prophetic voices to remind me to challenge the notion that white supremacist created image of Jesus was not my Christ. I was called to challenge the notion that we are to be divine bouncers when Christ has called us to draw unto Him.

Dr. E. Dewey Smith said many things from a sermon from almost three years ago that still resonates in my soul. However, this statement changed my approach to ministry and people. You can not evangelize and antagonize at the same time. For my personal walk, I am called to not to judge what I see. I am called to present the full counsel of the Savior I love and serve. Furthermore, God has not deputized me to keep anyone away for the genuine encounter of God’s presence and love.

We are not to pick and choose how people get the opportunity to experience radical change within their soul and spirit. We definitely don’t get to pick and choose what is sinful and what can be tolerated. We definitely can not speak for a larger body who longs to share the beauty of the relationship with God.

If we take on the challenge of becoming like Samuel, we will be asking God for certain tools to aid us.

  1. Vision:  We must have to ability to see what is to come. Samuel was shown before Saul arrived that he would have to anoint Saul as the new king of Israel. God revealed that Samuel had to be prepared for the one to come, not how that one would come. We must see that our ability to see what God sees allows us to remove the guess work in how to operate for the Kingdom of God.
  2. Relationship: Samuel was in tune with God from childhood. Samuel knew the voice of God from his initial calling as a child as a priest intern. Samuel cultivated that relationship with God to the extent that he was able to move when God wanted to move. Nothing God said was accidental. Nothing Samuel did was without purpose.
  3. Spirit-Led: We must be prepared to allow the Holy Spirit to guide how we execute the Will of God in the Earth. God will allow us to gain all the information possible to understand as much as our minds can conceive in that moment. Yet, we still need the Spirit to activate every gift of grace that rest within us to usher the proper environment for elevation in experiencing God.

When you are a Samuel, a payoff comes. Samuel met Saul and revealed to him that he was chosen to be king of Israel. Saul could not believe what was happening, but the destiny was set in motion by God. Samuel would walk with Saul as the future king would experience and witness the affirmation of his call.

When we trust God with what has been given to us, we can walk out the necessary elements of comfort and truth to power. We must rise to in both veins (priest and prophet) in this season of life. Otherwise, we will have a future of wanderers seeking a voice. They will be like sheep without a shepherd. A people without love or hope. I refuse to face that judgment for a temporary platform.